Often times when someone brings up collaborative divorce, people think it is: Expensive; Only when people get along; and Takes too long. However, all 3 of these facts are untrue with quite a few people finding the process incredibly beneficial. Depending on expectations, goals, experts hired, lawyers hired, and development of overall gameplan for the process, collaborative divorce can be: Efficient; Resolution focused; and Cost effective. Why Collaborative? There can be many reasons to consider collaborative divorce, but the most important one should be whether you want to better situate yourself to co-parent with your spouse on child related issues or make a creative solution to dividing up property or a property division that better fits your needs. All cases, whether involving litigation or otherwise, require the spouses to make multiple attempts to settle disputes prior to a judge hearing the case. Collaborative divorce allows you to focus your energy on settling the dispute. In addition, couples who go through collaborative divorce have a significantly lower likelihood of returning to court for modifications than those who engage in traditional litigation. Collaborative divorce (or custody) cases, divide up the work. Instead of an attorney handling clients, developing custody or possession schedules, figuring out solutions for child support, developing a division of property and debts, and any other related issues which need resolution, such as home ownership post-divorce versus selling the house, a small team of neutral professionals and attorneys come together to focus on the issues and workout solutions so the husband, wife, and possibly children, move forward and reach agreements which benefit them. Overview of the Process Collaborative divorce (or custody) starts with each side agreeing to the collaborative process, meeting with their attorney, selecting neutral professionals to assist in the process, and then signing a participation agreement. Once those first steps get completed, meetings get scheduled which focus on the issues in your case. There are typically (but not always) 2-3 neutral professions. A neutral health professional helps manage the meeting, develop a parenting plan with conservatorship and possession schedule which fits the needs and situation of the parties. A neutral financial professional gathers the information regarding financial accounts, vehicles, property, various accounts, and any debts. Then they create a property division. Possibly a child specialist joins the group to help with any ongoing issues which need addressing regarding the children as well. They meet with the children and assist with any counseling needs. For couples who are in the right mindset, this process can be completed with only 4 joint meetings, which any attorney would tell you costs less than your average litigation matter. Joint meetings require everyone to be present to discuss and work through specific disputed issues set on an agenda. Your first meeting generally focuses on goals, interests, concerns, and planning. A meeting can focus on the children, then the next on financial split, and then one final one to review and go over the final order. Making the whole process very efficient and cost effective. Cost Although each attorney and their team is different, the main financial benefit comes down to a division of labor. In a standard litigation case, an attorney (and their team) handle all aspects of your case and may bring in their own professional to assist with property and debt characteristics of your case. In a collaborative divorce, the attorney handles less and the neutral professionals manage each of their obligations thereby splitting up the work versus having one attorney handling all of it. Difficult Issues Can a collaborative divorce deal with issues such as alcoholism or drug abuse? Yes. Can a collaborative divorce work when there is significant conflict between the spouses or one of them is a narcissist? Yes. Will it require additional work and possibly outside sources? Yes. Final Thoughts The biggest benefit when considering collaborative divorce is the end result. Usually, people find they reached better results, have a better working relationship with their spouse, worked through the hard and difficult issues, and come out the other end better than anticipated. In addition, the process helps develop effective communication, address issues a judge can’t always address, and provides a meaningful resolution to the divorce or custody case. Educating yourself on how collaborative divorce works is essential for anyone going through a divorce or separation. Knowing the difference collaborative divorce and litigation, benefits you achieve, and your legal rights can help you make informed and well planned out decisions. If you find yourself in a difficult situation and need to discuss this with someone, you can always reach out to an attorney to give you some advice and direction. Please feel free to give Rasley Law Group a call at 972-584-7626 or visit our website at www.rasleylaw.com.